Pregnant?
Why
Wait?
Abstinence
until marriage is a great choice! Why should I choose abstinence?
If this is a question you're asking, here are a few things to
think about.
Abstinence
is the ONLY 100% way to prevent pregnancy. And
considering that 1 out of every 10 teenage girls becomes pregnant
each year could definitely add a plus for it. Pregnancy cannot
be ignored, and whatever is done about it will have a permanent
effect on the mother's life. The woman is usually left with the
consequences and responsibilities. Think about your goals, plans,
and dreams. How would caring for a child for the next 18 years
fit into those plans?
Abstinence
also prevents sexually transmitted diseases.
1 out of every 5 people are infected with a viral STD. Abstaining
from sex will shield you from STD's.
Self
Respect and foundation for a loving and secure marriage.
There are other issues that abstinence prevents besides the physical
ones. Premarital sex provides NO ASSURANCE of security, love,
or commitment from the other person. Self respect means you have
the strength to say NO to sex when you are not ready for it. A
man who loves you will respect you for that as well, and will
know to not take you for a ride. Many times it might be one of
security, love, or commitment that girls are looking for. A secure
and happy marriage will provide the three of these. It will also
assure you that this is the right person for more than just one
night. Premarital sex can also bring future guilt and regret.
Think about how hard it would be to tell your husband that you
had not saved your virginity until marriage when he had. Abstinence
is not saying to give up sex forever, but to wait until marriage.
Think about how much more enjoyable things are when you wait for
them.
Four
Stages of Building Healthy Relationships
Stage
One-Exploring Similarities
In this initial stage of the relationship, the man and woman focus
upon their similarities and generally do not see imperfections
in each other or potential areas of incompatibility.
Stage
Two-Exploring Differences
In this stage, differences in interests, perceptions, and goals
may arise. Also, it is a time when weaknesses in the other person
become apparent. If positive steps are not taken to address and
negotiate these issues, there is a good chance that the relationship
will not advance to the next stage.
Stage
Three-Dealing with Similarities and Differences
At this stage, the couple must engage in a serious assessment
of their relationship to determine whether it should lead to marriage.
A solid foundation for marriage requires that difficult issues
be resolved before the marriage, not afterwards. Hope pregnancy
center at WAAW foundation encourages couples to seek pre-marital
counseling at this stage, from their church or spiritual leadership.
We also provide referals for pre-marital counseling.
Stage
Four-Life-long Commitment
Marriage requires a lifelong commitment. Without a high degree
of commitment, the relationship cannot last. It is important to
be sure in your heart about your partners commitment as you boldly
and joyfully take this step to marriage.
Hope pregnancy center at WAAW foundation wants you to know that
a beautiful and great marriage is heaven on earth, but a bad marriage
on a faulty foundation is hell on earth. Do not be compelled to
make the wrong choice!
